Attract A Man: The Do’s And Don’ts

First, I’ll show you the quickest way to check out my very best tips on how to attract a man.

Now, I’ll share some other tips here you should know about what creates attraction in a man in this post.

Here’s something interesting…

Do you ever wonder why some women who don’t have their “act together” still can seem to have an uncanny knack for attracting guys and keeping them hooked?

You know that it can’t just be about physical beauty, or how intelligent or “nice” they are, because that’s not always the case. Men are often intensely attracted to women who aren’t the “best person” or the best for them.

In reality, some women who really get men “hooked” are NOT the sweetest, most loving or most thoughtful women. Instead, these women seem to have a secret something that makes them totally addictive to the man they’re with.

Now, it’s important that I tell you that you can still have this “something” and be a genuinely sweet and authentic woman. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. You can be sweet and loving and generous. But the point is, what attracts a man is NOT being sweet and loving.

There’s another element to how attraction works for a man, and too many women make the unconscious mistake of assuming that attraction comes from being “nice”, so they try and do nice things to try and attract a man.

The reality is… what attracts a man is something else.

How The “Cool Woman” Attracts A Man

There are women who men refer to as “cool girls”, or “cool women”.

When men are talking and they want to let their friend know about the great woman in their life they simply say, “she’s a really cool woman.”

This is the universal male shorthand for a woman who just GETS IT when it comes to being incredible and irresistible to be around. These are the women men crave being with and staying with, as they know how to create and share that intense attraction, and keep their endlessly fascinated and wondering about them. While some women can’t seem to buy a man’s true love and loyalty… the “cool woman” literally has her man BEGGING for more of her time and attention.

I’ve spent years researching and observing exactly what this is in women with men, and how it all works… and I’ve put everything I’ve discovered about what it is that will drive a man wild for you, to where he’ll be wanting more and more from you and your relationship.

Some women have a hard time getting a man to want to ever truly commit- even after years of an amazing life shared together. While other women have their man literally down on bended knee begging to spend the rest of their life together.

What’s the difference?

The big difference in how a man is with you comes down to the level of ATTRACTION he feels for you. Either he feels it for you, or he doesn’t.

And when things aren’t working, and you can tell a man has lost that feeling for you… you can bet that he’s no longer feeling that magic emotion of ATTRACTION which is what brought you together in the first place.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a woman who was born knowing exactly what it is that creates this kind of deep and lasting attraction in your man.

In fact, triggering the kind of intense attraction in your man is actually easy, once you know how.

And what’s really easy is getting to sit back and watch as your relationship gives you more love, confidence and support than you ever imagined… all because your man is feeling so excited to stay connected to you because of the attraction he has burning inside him when he’s around you.

I want you to have this feeling, and enjoy the kind of lasting and secure relationship that can only take place when you and your man are both feeling this way with each other.

Of course, your guy should also be doing things to make sure YOU are happy and feel the love and appreciation you deserve in a relationship. If he’s not doing these things, then what I don’t suggest is simply trying the tips to attract a man I’ll show you and hope that it works.

YOUR FEELINGS are important too, and a man will sense them if you’re frustrated and feeling uncertain about him and your relationship as a result. So before you move to create attraction, you need to check in with your feelings. I’m going to write a post on that soon to make sure you and the man in your life validates your feelings as well.

But I don’t want to focus on that here. I want to focus on when you’re ready to do the things that create attraction with men and have it work for you.

Do’s & Don’t To Attract A Man

So knowing all this, what’s the secret to being irresistible in a way that can’t help but attract a man?

Let me give you some quick tips and then tell you exactly what you need to do in order to be the kind of woman a man can’t live without… not matter WHAT is going on in his life.

Let’s say there’s a man in your life you find incredibly attractive and interesting. You’ve gotten to know him a little bit and you think he’s finds you attractive, too.

You think about him all the time. You miss talking to him and seeing him when you’re not with him. You wonder what it would be like to have something real and committed with him.

As for him…he acts like he likes you too—sometimes. But in the back of your mind, you’re not completely sure he’s really that “into you.” Maybe he doesn’t call as often as you want him to, or he acts a little distant when you’re together.

What do you do in this situation?

You might do what so many women do in the same situation. They KILL their chance with the guy by doing some very UN-attractive things.

Here are some do’s and don’ts when it comes to being irresistible to a man:

Attract A Man Situation #1

WRONG WAY: Keep moving towards him and fill in any and all empty space that you sense between you. Tell him how much you like him and share all the thoughts and feelings that are racing through your mind.

BETTER WAY: Take time to enjoy the connection that you’re sharing, and don’t try and rush ahead. Do things that engage him and capture his interest, and then sit back and let him come to you a bit too. Give him time and space in your interactions to come to you with his feelings.

Attract A Man Situation #1

WRONG WAY: Kill him with kindness by complimenting him every chance you get, call him all the time, do favors for him without him even asking… and generally do whatever you can to be a special
“friend” and companion to him.

BETTER WAY: Think “playful” instead of just nice, as you don’t want to be his friend. Instead, be unpredictable and intriguing. Create tension and interest by not always doing or saying the “obvious” thing. This will keep him thinking and wondering about you, and get him doing things to get more of your time and attention.

Attract A Man Situation #1

WRONG WAY: Sleep with him in the hopes that by being close and intimate he’ll realize how much he likes you, how amazing you both are together, and want a relationship. Act and talk to him like you’re already in a serious and committed relationship, even though you’ve never talked about it. Get upset when you don’t see that he wants a relationship after you’re physical with him.

BETTER WAY: Don’t make the mistake of hoping that sex will bring him closer to you and setup your relationship. Communicate to a man that you’re SELECTIVE, and that you respect yourself more than you need a relationship.

Slow things down and be selective for your own sake, as well as for the sake of the “real” relationship you want to create.

Create not just physical but emotional experiences with him that will connect you both. He wants and needs to feel not just Physically Attraction with you, but what I call Emotional Attraction as well.

Attract A Man Physically And Emotionally

Now… if you’ve had a tough time with dating and relationships because the man seems to lose interest, fade away, get distant, stop calling or tell you he’s not into anything “serious,” then it could mean you haven’t created the kind of intense emotional attraction inside him that keeps him wanting to be with you, and only you… no matter what.

If that’s the case, then you should do yourself a BIG favor and save yourself any more wasted time and energy trying to guess what works with your man.

You can learn exactly how to create the kind of powerful and lasting attraction that makes you truly irresistible to a man by doing and saying all the things you’ll learn in my Natural & Lasting Attraction program.

In it I don’t just show you WHAT creates attraction in a man, I also show you WHY men respond to a need to feel both Physical and Emotional Attraction with you, and why there are 2 types of Attraction you want a man to feel with you.

The short reason for this is what’s called the Triune Brain. See picture below from my Natural & Lasting Attraction program.

The 2 second explanation of the Triune Brain is that our minds evolved over time in 3 main “layers” that have their own unique intelligence and way of being.

The Physical Brain: The first and oldest part of our brain is the Physical or Reptile Brain. It’s the part of our brain that’s more “automatic”, unconscious and reactive. It’s concerned with basic things like Survival behaviors.

The Emotional Brain: The second part of the brain that evolved is the Emotional or Mammalian Brain. This part of the brain deals with Sex and Attraction on a more primal “reproductive” level. We feel the deep “spark” of Physical Attraction when our Emotional Brain is triggered. Our more unconscious courtship behaviors evolved in this brain.

The Thinking Brain: The Thinking or Rational brain interacts with the Emotional Brain through the neo-cortex. This part of of the brain does the “higher” thinking and reasoning, and processes language. This part of the brain is triggered when a man feels what I call Emotional Attraction, which then also interacts with the more primal and “bonding” oriented Emotional Brain.

The good news, you don’t need to know about all the science behind HOW and WHY attraction works, and what attracts a man. You just need to use what works.

If you’re ready to learn everything you need to know about creating not just physical attraction, but a deeper and more lasting emotional level of attraction and keep your man attracted you need to consider both what keeps you both Physically and Emotionally connected.

The best part is that this isn’t just for him. This will create a much richer and more emotionally fulfilling relationship for you as well. You just need to start tapping into both types of attraction.

And again, I also have great tips and a powerful program that has my best tips and insights on how to attract man.

Talk to you again soon and best of luck in Life and Love.

Christian

Tagged as: attraction, emotional attraction, triune brain