I’m going to share the 3 mistakes men most often make that prevent them from being better listeners in relationships… and how to talk to a man and get him to really listen and respond thoughtfully to you.
First, I need to share something important with you…
It’s something both Women and Men must remember if they’re going to move past the everyday kind of relationship and into a true loving partnership based on MUTUAL FULFILLMENT and a life of growth and expansion together.
Here’s the thing…
You, and only you, are the Creator of your Love Life.
As the Creator, you have total freedom and complete control to choose how you deal with and respond to each situation – positive or negative.
While it might seem like men, relationships and the situations that come up have control or power over you… this doesn’t have to be the case.
Only if you let it.
If you hold in your heart feelings of love and appreciation that are greater than any passing moment, you’ll very often be able to break free of the everyday ups-and-downs and find a deeper level of “connected-ness” with the man in your life.
In fact, doing this will not only rise your relationship to a higher level, it can even call your guy up to a higher level with you.
In case you didn’t know… Love and the many positive sensations and gifts that come with it are CONTAGIOUS. Just like the simple power of a smile.
How Do You Talk To A Man?
Knowing that you are the Creator of your Love Life, let me ask you…
How do you talk to a man when your feelings are hurt or something seems “off” in your relationship?
How do you share your feelings with a man so that he not only listens to you, but he takes notice of what’s going on for you and supports you with what HE says and does in your relationship?
Something fascinating happens for lots of women when they go to communicate with a man…
They surrender their power as the Creator of their love life.
This happens when a woman freezes up in the moment when a feeling strikes her. As much as her goal might be to talk about it with a man and connect with him about it… in reality a woman often “disconnects” from herself and from love, and holds on to the negative feelings and keeps them quietly to herself for fear of it having a negative effect on the man.
What’s more, lots of women actually do get a bad response from men when they share their deeper feelings in these moments- which only deepens their belief that they can’t be honest with their feelings and that men will always respond negatively.
But nothing could be farther from the truth.
It might shock you to learn that men care deeply about making the woman they are with HAPPY.
However, even if a man cares about making you happy… he doesn’t always respond well to a hearing about your hurt feelings.
There are 3 mistakes men make most often in these situations that will show you why men don’t listen.
The 3 Reasons Why Men Don’t Listen
Reason #1: He doesn’t listen because he AVOIDS your feelings.
Reason #2: He doesn’t listen because he’s genuinely OBLIVIOUS.
Reason #3: He doesn’t listen because as soon as he hears you, he tries to FIX IT and doesn’t end up responding to what was really going on in the first place.
Knowing that these are the most common mistakes men make in trying to listen and communicate with you about your feelings can help if you keep them in mind.
How can you have a better outcome when you try to communicate with the man in your life?
What if you remembered that YOU were the Creator of your Love Life, and you remembered that just like you, a man can communicate and respond in ways that aren’t always helpful to creating what it is you’re both really seeking-
To better understand and connect with each other.
What kind of change would approaching your relationship, your communication and the man in your life this way create?
If you want to learn some of my very best insights and tips into communicating with men in relationships, I’d also recommend checking out my Communication Secrets program and loads of free tips.
You can watch some free video tips from this program and hear what other women learned from this program if you check it out.
It’s here: Communication Secrets
I’ll talk with you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.
Christian
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Wow…I’ve learned sooo much! Thank you! You must be a sex god. I wish all guys weren’t such “jerks” and show that they truly care by being genuinely interested, attentive and compassionate. Its simple really you just have to throw away them “bad apples” and find someone who appreciates being in your presence or who is irreplaceable, or just simply honest. They are rare but they’re out there.
hey this is sarah from texas. i have read all of your steps and they have been really helpful and thank you. you are so amazing and your is amazing…..