As women, you’ve all been there – that confusing moment when a man seems “into you” at first, but shortly after you get intimate, he starts acting distant. You wonder if it’s too early to sleep with him or why he stopped calling for no apparent reason.
How do you know when it’s too early to sleep with a man, and what can you do if you’ve already been physical, but he suddenly stops calling for no apparent reason?
Let’s dive into some common misconceptions and mistakes that women tend to make when it comes to sex and relationships… and learn why it’s crucial to understand the realities of sex and love in whether you’re dating or in a committed relationship.
Sex Doesn’t Determine Relationship Status:
First and foremost, let’s get one thing straight – just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn’t mean he’s made a decision about wanting a future relationship with her. The physical act of intimacy doesn’t automatically make him “see your worth” or trigger a desire for a lasting relationship.
Separating Sex and Relationships:
To comprehend the dynamics of dating and sex, it’s essential to realize that they are two separate aspects that don’t inherently connect. What makes a man truly “feel it” for you and want more isn’t merely physical attraction or getting close to you physically.
Common Mistakes Women Make:
One common mistake many women make is not being clear about their expectations before sleeping with a man. They assume that the act of sex alone will convey their desire for a relationship, which often leads to misunderstandings and disappointment. Here are some common errors to avoid:
- Not discussing what sex means to you before intimacy.
- Fearing that talking about feelings and desires will make things awkward.
- Realizing your true feelings after the fact, causing confusion and disappointment.
You’re Not Alone:
If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation where you became physically involved with a man who didn’t share your relationship expectations, you’re not alone. Many women experience this, and it’s essential to learn how to navigate these situations.
Creating the Right Feelings:
Instead of dwelling on past mistakes, focus on creating the right feelings inside a man before having sex. Sleeping with a man is not inherently a bad thing, but you must generate emotions that are distinct from the act of sex. A man won’t automatically fall for you because you’ve been physically intimate.
Understanding What Men Want:
Mature, healthy men are looking for someone they feel deeply attracted to (notice that I underlined the word MATURE). They want to experience a “WOW!” factor with a woman and be utterly captivated by her. When a man appears disinterested or unwilling to commit, it’s often because the woman hasn’t created this compelling desire in him.
Don’t Deny Him the Thrill of the Chase:
To make a man “feel it” for you, you need to let him experience that irresistible desire before you sleep with him. Specific behaviors and attitudes can make you irresistible to a man, compelling him to think about you and want you both before and after physical intimacy.
Look… the world of dating, sex, and relationships is complex but it’s absolutely critical to understand that sex alone doesn’t determine a man’s desire for a committed relationship. By focusing on creating the right feelings and desires, you can increase the likelihood of a deeper, more meaningful connection. It’s time to stop hoping that sex alone will win a man’s heart and instead learn how to make him truly “feel it” for you.