You Miss Him… But You’re Not Sure If He Misses You? Here’s How To Make Him Miss You Like Crazy
The answer is simpler than you think… but before I tell you, let’s start from the beginning:
Why do we miss someone, or something? Think about that for a second…
Because we have positive experiences with that person. You won’t miss being miserable with someone. You miss having a good time, experiencing good emotions, right?
I know no relationship is perfect, or always positive, but when the net sum of our experiences together is positive, we’ll likely miss having that person around.
And here’s a deeper notion I want to share with you: We miss who we are in the presence of someone special. Because when we’re with someone we love, we feel great inside. We feel happy, we feel love and joy — and we associate these feelings with being with that person.
Where I’m getting at is that our emotions (inside us) are positive around that person, so we feel good, and when we’re far apart, we miss feeling that way, right?
So how can you create such a positive experience with a guy— so he’ll feel so good inside when he’s with you, and will miss that feeling — and MISS YOU — when you’re away?
Start by making sure anytime you’re together, you communicate your emotions to him in a positive way… even if it’s a negative emotion.
How Are You Making Him Feel When He’s Around You?
In any relationship, negative feelings are bound to come up. That’s a given. But how you handle those emotions determines the kind of EXPERIENCE you create in the relationship.
If you let your fears and negative emotions become the focal point when you’re with him, you probably won’t be able to talk to him or date in a fun and spontaneous way that men crave and that builds attraction.
Most of us (men and women) use our minds to imagine the WORST possible outcomes for dating and relationship situations. This pushes all the wrong buttons and gets us all nervous and upset which, of course, creates distance in relationships.
On the other hand, when you continuously strive to adopt a positive mind set in a relationship and create fun, positive experiences in the relationship, then the man will start to see you as a POSITIVE aspect of his life… and pretty soon he’ll see you as a NECESSARY part of his life. That’s when he starts thinking about commitment.
That’s when he misses you EVERY DAY!
Your First Step In Creating That Intense Attraction That Makes Him Miss You
Right from the early stages of dating, there are ways to tip the balance so that your general experience together is POSITIVE. Firstly, it’s important that you lose the need to make everything MEAN something and stop imagining the worst.
Think about those situations when a man doesn’t call you back or plays hard to get. Yeah, thinking that someone is playing games sucks, but the belief that there’s a “game” going on is exactly the kind of negative meaning I’m talking about.
If you immediately start to wonder where he is, what he’s doing, and who he’s with, you create the game in your mind. Then you make up pictures in your mind of him out with other women, doing fun things without you, etc., and it’s really upsetting.
Instead, start doing yourself a favor:
- Visualize your ideal outcome
- Make POSITIVE meaning out of the experience for yourself
If he doesn’t call you back right away, imagine that he is freaked out with his own life and schedule (maybe his boss just threatened to let him go), and make it mean that when he finally does talk to you, he’s going to be even MORE interested because it took you so long to catch up with each other.
If he tells you he’s not ready for a relationship right now because of his past, realize that, first of all, he’s feeling that way because he REALLY likes you and has had to think about being in a relationship because his feelings are so strong. He’s scared of his deep feelings for you and doesn’t know how to deal with that yet.
And that once he figures it out for himself, he’ll miss you and want you, and you don’t have to be there waiting around for him to grow up. There’s nothing wrong with you or how you are. And it’s great that you got to see this problem of his early on, and that it’s his to deal with.
Positive People Are Attractive People
All of the women I know who end up in great long-term relationships with great attractive men think this way. This is their mind set.
Have you ever noticed that confident people seem to get more confident…
That optimistic people tend to get more optimistic…
That people who believe in luck seem to get more and more lucky…
And that people who are negative seem to become more and more negative?
It’s almost like universal magic. The more we expect things to go well, the better they go.
So how to make him miss you? Be Positive.
As I said in the beginning: it sounds too simple, and easy, right? It can be… what is hard is to make this a habit.
It Takes Practice To Make This A Habit…
Here’s a secret: one of the best ways to practice being more positive is through relationships. Because while it’s fairly easy to practice maintaining a positive mood when you’re by yourself and nobody is pushing your buttons, what happens when you’re relating to a man and he’s bringing his own set of ideas and feelings to the table?
Do you know what to do? Do you know how to handle any tension that comes up and how to relate to him in a way that will cause his attraction for you to grow… rather than push him away accidentally?
Your internal state, or your attitudes and beliefs, shine though whether you talk about them or not with a guy. He’ll just “sense” it about you. He’ll sense that you’re relaxed, playful, engaged, positive, optimistic… and he’ll miss being with you and sensing that about you.
OR
Maybe he’ll sense that you’re tense, worried, needy, negative, jaded, or resigned to things going a certain way for you.
He’ll sense it, but he won’t consciously KNOW that’s what he’s sensing. He will just get that “something isn’t right” feeling in his gut, and it’ll make him think twice about getting closer to you, or asking you out again.
And which experience do you think he’ll crave when he’s not with you?
We miss what makes us feel good inside. And we’re attracted to people who can do that. This is just one small part of the bigger picture about ATTRACTION, and specifically, Emotional Attraction (which goes far beyond mere looks and sexual appeal.)
I want to help you learn how to create the kind of deep, intimate, POSITIVE connection with a man that will just get better and better for the two of you. He’ll miss you every day, and he won’t stay away!
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All the happiness in life and love,
Jason