And if you’re going to compliment a man, how to actually do it in a way that’s guaranteed to create attraction.
Many women search for “compliments for men” — go ahead, look at the results. You’ll see tons of ideas on how to compliment a guy.
There are hundreds of lists out there. Best compliments for men on their looks, on their demeanor, their sexual performance. Yes, women want to know how to compliment a guy… but why? Why do you want to compliment a guy?
Do you want to genuinely make him feel special?
Or are you under the impression that men are so egotistical that you need to “flatter” him so he’ll like you? — if that’s what you believe, maybe you’re going after the wrong guys. Read more here about how to recognize a legit good-guy, and finding true love.
There’s a big difference. So today I invite you to see things from a different perspective: From the guy’s perspective! — a good guy, not a self-centered jerk who you need to worry about impressing…
First of all, guys are NOT used to receiving compliments. They do give compliments a lot more than women, though. Have you noticed? Any man who’s interested in you, and has enough confidence, will compliment you right away on your hair, eyes, how dressed up you are, etc. These are the easier compliments: on your looks.
As you get deeper into a relationship, he’ll start complimenting you on your achievements, he’ll brag about you to his friends… About how cool you are, about all the great things you’re bringing to his life.
But let’s go back to how YOU can compliment your man in a way that really makes a difference in how he sees you, and how attracted to you he feels.
Men and women are different in many ways, but there’s one thing we all have been wired to seek: appreciation. We all want to be the star of our movie.
When men receive compliments, we feel special. We feel appreciated. No matter what type of compliment that is. But for men, it’s even MORE important to know we’re being appreciated for how we make YOU feel. It’s a primitive instinct we still carry: to be a good provider, a good rescuer, a good savior.
I want to be clear: I know women don’t need men to provide for them. — this is not “old-timey machismo.” It’s about making someone you care about feel special.
And Here’s What NOT To Do With Your Compliments For Men:
So if your intention is to show how special and important he is to you, I have a big warning here. The big NO-NO of them all:
→ Don’t compliment a man just to fish for a compliment back
That’s a major attraction-killer.
Guys will think you’re needy and uncool if you do that. (I talk more about what guys think a “cool girl” is — if you want to create attraction in a man, you need to know this!)
Compliment him when he does something considerate and thoughtful. Tell him how much you appreciate him when he does something to make you happy. Let him know how proud you are to be with him.
If he’s a mature, good-guy, he’ll be so attracted to you by just understanding and recognizing a true, genuine compliment.
When you make your man feel like a winner who’s doing things right, he’ll want to hold on to that feeling…
and you.
You know I’m right… Just put yourself in his shoes. What would make you happier than the people who you care about being appreciative of all you do for them. Men are the same way.
Compliments For Men At Each Stage of the Relationship
Compliments for men are important no matter what stage of the relationship you are at. Think about some examples here with me:
- Early Dating: I say this a lot, but worth repeating… dating is HARD for men! They are expected to make the first move, and they’re often rejected. If you’re in early dating stages: tell him what he’s doing well. Here are some examples, some simple… some more in depth:
- Your sense of humor is so great! I’m always smiling when I’m with you.
- You have great taste in music!
- I love how kind you were to the waiter… He seems new and might mess up our order, but you were extra nice even when he seemed so confused.
- Thanks for showing up on time! I feel so valued because you never make me wait, and I appreciate that.
- Thank you for bringing me here. What a great choice. It was the highlight of my day!
- Early Relationship: same ones above still apply, but you can start going deeper:
- I’m so impressed at how honest you are. Thank you for opening up about that.
- It makes me so happy just seeing you smile. I’m glad you’re having a good time.
- Spending time with you is the best part of my day!
- You’re the only person I’ve been with that’s made me feel this calm – I never have to worry about you
- I love the way we balance each other – I love how we work as a team together
- Long-term Relationship:
- Your character and personality are exactly what I always dreamed of in a man. I’m so glad you’re in my life.
- I’m still excited to be in love you and you’re always surprising me with the things you do
- You make me feel safe and cared for
- Every time I look at you, I still see the person I fell in love with… but somehow you keep getting better
- We’ve been through a lot, and I can’t imagine going through all of this with anybody else. You’re my rock!
You get the idea… When you compliment a man on how great he looks, how wonderful he makes you feel, he’ll get an ego boost for sure, but most importantly, he’ll feel good around you. And he’ll want more of that!
Begin And End With Appreciation: Your Compliments Will Go A Long Way…
It’s NOT about flattery… It’s about showing appreciation and standing out from the crowd — remember, most women don’t have the habit of complimenting men that often.
And no matter what you say to a guy, if you say it with genuine authenticity, expressing appreciation and gratitude, you’ll be getting closer to him and creating a strong emotional attraction.
So don’t worry about the many lists of compliments that teach you how to do fake flattery… Real, good guys won’t fall for that! Focus on truly expressing yourself and being who you really are around him.
He’ll LOVE you for that!
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All the happiness in life and love,
Jason