How To Identify a Good Man And Transform First Dates Into Amazing Connections⌠To Go From âHelloâ To âI Love Youâ
Isn’t it time to end all the fear, frustration and hopelessness over when and how youâll find a good man?
Why in the world would a great woman like you not find a great man who wants to be with you?
If you are like most single women that I talk to, this question is one of the most frustrating, painful questions in your life.
After years of dating, failed relationships and missed connections, you are starting to worry that youâll never meet âthe oneâ, that youâll have to âsettleâ, or worse yet, that you arenât cut out for relationships.
Maybe you always fall for the wrong man. The kind of guy who seems nice and attentive at first, but things quickly spiral into neglect, coldness and loneliness. You thought you found âthe oneâ, but instead you just found another guy whoâll break your heart.
Or perhaps youâre lucky enough to find a great guy – a guy you see yourself settling down with – but HE doesnât seem to realize how great YOU are. He came on hot and heavy, but eventually his attention waned, and he stopped calling and eventually just disappeared altogether.
You are starting to wonder if all the good men are taken. If the ones who are left are all pigs, or just looking for casual relationships.
You are starting to wonder if you’ll ever be able to find love.
You feel lonely and sad, and canât help but wonder what it is about you thatâs preventing love from coming into your life.
This is a horrible way to feel, and often leads to a spiral of hopelessness that is very hard to break.
But Iâm here to help you break it, because I believe love is just around the corner. You just need to know how to invite it in.
A Great Man Is Out There Looking For You… But You Need to Know How To Find Him And Show Him What A Great Catch You Are
Iâm going to tell you something that may surprise you.
The problem isnât a lack of great, available men for you to love. In fact, there are good men everywhere.
The problem lies in how you approach meeting them and dating them.
Ask any single, attractive, HIGH QUALITY man how he is feeling about dating. He’ll give you variations on one of two complaints:
- âI canât find a great woman to dateâ
- â I meet women I am interested in, but then we start dating and she starts saying and doing things that completely freak me out, causing me to leave in a hurryâ
What is that about!??!?!?
How is it possible that great women like you are single, and yet the good available men out there complain that there arenât great women to date?!
And what does that mean, the “she does things to freak him out”? How could a woman wanting to give all her love and share herself with him freak him out?
The Root Problem, That Women Usually Don’t Think About
These actions that cause men to freak out can all be traced to one root problem.
If you eliminate this problem, you will quickly find a good man, because:
- The man you feel is a great partner will see you as the quality woman heâs been seeking
- The dating stage will become fun and exciting for both, and it will pave the way for a loving, lasting relationship⌠instead of blow ups, surprises, arguments, and frustration
- Your man will look forward to spending time with you, and thinks about you when youâre not around
- Youâll be able to capture the heart of a man who is not only âup to your standards,â but exactly what you want and who you deserve.
Iâm guessing this sounds like a lot more fun than what you might have experienced in the past with a man, right?
Ignoring This Problem Is NOT Going To Help You Find An Amazing Man
On the other hand, if you keep on making this mistake of not identifying and addressing this one problem, you will find that:
- Youâll keep choosing all the wrong men, and you’ll think it’s hard to find a good man out there
- Youâll have an impossible time identifying the right men, even when heâs right in front of you
- A man will quickly lose interest, even after several dates or being intimate with you
- A man will see you as âneedy,â even if youâre not
- Your efforts to talk and connect with a man will only turn him off and prevent him from ever wanting a real relationship with you
- A man wonât see you as ârelationship materialâ and not want anything more than to casually date you
I think you can see just how dangerous not finding and addressing this problem for yourself really is.
So now letâs talk about WHAT this problem actually is⌠and how to eliminate itâŚ
The Single WORST Thing You Can Do When Meeting And Getting To Know A ManâŚ
After several years of helping women to better understand and communicate with men, Iâve discovered the single biggest cause of the frustration and disappointment many women experience in their dating lives.
I call this mistake the âInstant Relationshipâ.
The âInstant Relationshipâ is behavior triggered by attraction that has you thinking and acting as though you have a relationship with a man before youâve developed one.
It happens when you want to find a good man to date and build a relationship with, but begin an unconscious commitment for mutual honesty and exclusivity between you.
3 Reasons to Avoid Committing Too Early
Of course, this is completely different than CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSING A MAN after getting to know him better⌠and it has 3 very serious consequences:
- The unconscious commitment to a serious relationship made too early can cause you to overlook flaws, causing you to end up with the WRONG man for you
- Because it is so built up in your mind, you will act and behave differently with this man, likely scaring him away by coming on too strong, looking too interested, or coming off as NEEDY or CLINGY
- Because an attractive man, who is a great catch, is so used to this happening with the women he dates, it causes him to see you as âjust another girlâ that he doesnât mind losing.
In fact, the Instant Relationship can be as unattractive to a man as it is for a man youâve just met to expect to have sex with you⌠try and convince you to do so, then act hurt or upset when you donât want to.
Some women get so attached right away when they find a great man, they start developing this instant relationship mentality– and that can backfire.
But perhaps worst of all⌠the Instant Relationship takes away all the fun of getting to know someone and building a strong foundation for a successful relationship. It puts too much pressure on a man, causing him to withdraw from you.
Unfortunately many, many women make this mistake with men without ever realizing it or consciously knowing it.
When we meet someone we like, itâs easy for our âbiologyâ to take over and make us do stupid things.
The good news is that it isnât all that hard to STOP making this mistake once know you are doing it. I want to show you how.
Your Roadmap For Finding And Attracting Mr. RightâŚ
Guaranteeing that you end of up in a relationship with the man you want is about two things:
— Stopping the things that donât work (mainly, the “instant relationship” effect)
— Building confidence that you can find a good man, and show him what a great catch you are! Simply by being yourself.
My eBook explains in detail everything you need to know about being more confident, finding the right guy, and being authentic to yourself, your values in the process… While learning how men think about dating and relationships.
Sounds too easy?
It can be. You need to put in the work to learn these things, but I have a feeling you will. You’re here already– reading this… wanting to learn more.
I hope you give it a try⌠you’ll be surprised at how much easier you’ll find a good man once you keep these simple rules in mind.
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I’ll speak to you again soon!
All the happiness in life and love,
Jason